Gottman Bringing Baby Home Program

What is the Bringing Baby Home Program about?

Even the strongest relationships are strained during the transition to parenthood. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework and new fiscal concerns can lead to profound stress and a decline in marital satisfaction – all of which affect baby’s care. Not surprisingly, 69% of new parents experience conflict, disappointment and hurt feelings. each shows that within 3 years after birth of a child, approximately 2/3 of couples experience a significant drop in the quality of their relationship and have a dramatic increase in conflict and hostility (Gottman).Our research-based Bringing Baby Home workshops prepare couples for life with baby and helps them be the best parenting team possible. In a relaxed and supportive environment, parents learn to strengthen their relationship and foster baby’s development during this challenging time. They build on what Dr. Gottman and colleagues found is the best predictor of marital adjustment after baby arrives: the quality of friendship in the marriage.

This 12-hour workshop helps parents gain relationship/communication skills, to regulate conflict, discover each other on a deeper level and prepares them to be partners in parenting while continuing to grow a loving couple relationship. The Gottmans’ research shows that this workshop helps couples to enhance their relationship satisfaction after the birth of their child.

My first observation of this program, having been married for 8 years with 4 kids, was, “I wish I would have went after my first child!” The insights and workable relationship tools are invaluable to get to know your partner and your children more intimately on a continuing basis and have skills to work through the everyday stresses of life.

In this 2-day workshop, presented in either a weekend format or as a series, parents will learn to:

  • Intimacy and conflict regulation skills Interact with your baby in a positive way
  • Keep both parents involved
  • Deal with conflict successfully
  • Stay connected with your partner
  • Strengthen your friendship
  • Learn how to cope constructively with the changes brought about by the birth of a child.
  • Learn how to promote the development of a healthier infant and assist your child in their emotional, social, cognitive, and physical development.
  • Learn how to deal with the “baby blues” and decrease the chance of postpartum depression.
  • Learn valuable insights from a research based and research tested program.
  • Create a family legacy.
  • Learn how to give your child the gift of a happy and healthy family.

Bringing Baby Home

for more information email Laurie Groh 

Laurie Groh

Shoreside Therapies

Whitefish Bay, WI

Gottman Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

About The Gottman Seven Principles Program for Couples

This program is based upon Dr. Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Straightforward in its approach yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this groundbreaking book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. For over 30 years Dr. Gottman scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviors that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship.

The bestselling Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the acclaimed culmination of four decades of research, made widely available for couples who long for better relationships. Until now, marking up the book’s pages was the only way to record answers to its many exercises.  Our new Companion Workbook allows each partner to privately record answers and journal thoughtfully about the concepts in the book, as they apply to one’s relationship. It takes users step-by-step through the interactive exercises in each chapter of The Seven Principlesbook. This “Essential” package offers savings by combining two Companion Workbooks with one copy of the Seven Principles book.

Couples that would benefit from this workshop:

  • Pre-Engaged
  • Pre-Marital
  • Everyone from newlyweds to seniors
  • Those who wish to enhance a good marriage
  • Those needing better conflict management tools

Couples that this workshop is not suited for:

  • Severe relationship distress
  • Emotional abuse
  • Domestic abuse
  • People not in recovery for their addiction
  • Untreated mental health problems in one or both partners

email Laurie Groh for more information

Laurie Groh, MS, LPC, SAS

Shoreside Therapies

Whitefish Bay, WI

10 tips to help get your anger under control

  1. Take a 'timeout.' Although it may seem cliché, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.
  2. Get some space. Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.
  3. Once you're calm, express your anger. It's healthy to express your frustration in a non-confrontational way. Stewing about it can make the situation worse.
  4. Get some exercise. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
  5. Think carefully before you say anything. Otherwise, you're likely to say something you'll regret. It can be helpful to write down what you want to say so that you can stick to the issues. When you're angry, it's easy to get sidetracked.
  6. Identify solutions to the situation. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
  7. Use 'I' statements when describing the problem. This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework."
  8. Don't hold a grudge. If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
  9. Use humor to release tensions. Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.
  10. Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.


Often referred to as the winter blues, seasonal affective disorder is sub-set of depression that 10 millions Americans are suffering with. Living here in Midwest we are more susceptible to this disorder and need to keep a watchful eye on our winter time moods. Wisconsinites are 6 times more likely to encounter S.A.D than Floridians. This disorder usually starts in late fall or early winter and goes into remission in late spring or early summer. Women are four times as likely to be diagnosed with S.A.D, a disorder that usually is first seen between the ages of 25-35.

Many of us struggle with our mood during the winter months often times feeling a malaise, weight gain and the feeling of being trapped or isolated. These symptoms, however, do not rise to the level of S.A.D. Those suffering with seasonal affective disorder have the bulk of the following symptoms: lethargy, overeating (often a craving for carbohydrates, sweets), feelings of hopelessness or sadness, drop in energy level, irritability, social isolation, decreased physical activity, difficulty concentrating and at times thoughts of suicide.

The causes for S.A.D. are currently unknown but most research points to a combination of environmental factors such as lack of sunlight and stress as well as genetic vulnerability. This disorder was not officially accepted by the psychological community until 1984, which is why theorists believe this is a product of a modern day society that confines us indoors. Third shift workers have been suffering from a higher proportion of medical illness for years. Although researches may argue about the causes of S.A.D. one thing they continue to agree upon are treatment approaches.

There are several effective treatment approaches to S.A.D. but clinicians agree that a combination has the greatest chance of producing effective results. Light therapy has shown impressive results for S.A.D. sufferers. This therapy involved exposure to a high powered bright artificial light. This therapy requires that you sit beside a light box for approximately 30 to 90 minutes a day, depending on the strength of the light and personal differences. You often can purchase a light box with a 30 day money back guaranty, which is time enough (usually two weeks) to return it if improvement is not seen. You can perform other activities while receiving this therapy, such as reading or watching television. This amount of light is equal to looking out the window on a sunny spring day. Research has shown that 80% get some relief and 40%-50% have remission of symptoms.

Light therapy can be supplemented by spending more time outside. Activities such as cross-county skiing and walking prove to be beneficial. A healthier diet often helps with S.A.D., as well as avoiding the urge to isolate, and reducing stressors.

Anti-depressants (SSRI’s i.e. Paxil, Zoloft) have proven to be effective in the treatment of S.A.D. They tend not to exacerbate the symptoms of lethargy and hypersomnia. None of the anti-depressant medications have been tested against each other in terms of treating S.A.D.

Psychotherapy is also an effective intervention. Helping the individual understand this disorder as well as offering coping skills and strategies is critical in the treatment process. It is also helpful to explore if their may be underlying reasons that this disorder tends to manifest itself in the winter months. Treatment tends to work best when a combination of these three treatment approaches are used.

Brandon A. Wells, MS LPC
Shoreside Therapies – 414-810-9012